What is it about us humans that we insist on always having to be doing something? Honestly, I believe it’s just as important to teach our kids how to BE, rather than what they are expected to always be doing. And perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned along the way, that the only thing you need to ever BE to get ANYTHING done, is your authentic self.
When you are fully in the mold of who you were destined to be, life is easy. I’m not saying it’s all rainbows and unicorns, but it’s easier in the fact that it’s “simple”. It’s simply because when you literally get out of your own way, the Universe has this funny way of always having your back and is in constant communication with you through your very own Soul; or what some might call your Higher Self. I am not fond of hierarchy-sounding titles, and since it’s still “you”, I prefer to call it your “Intuition” with a capital “I”. And that is perhaps the one “I” your ego will never understand and will yet fight to the death to prevent you from listening to.
You see the ego does not want to change. It’s that voice always telling you that life is hard because if you didn’t struggle, you wouldn’t have earned anything (insert guilt-motivation here), while in the same breath growing ever resentful as to why all this hard work isn’t getting you everything you want out of life. You might even look around and compare yourself to other people who seemingly have not worked as hard as you (biased judgment no matter how you look at it and it only damages your own growth) and ask yourself, “Why not me?”
I am as guilty as the next person of always feeling like I’m not doing enough and if I happen to take a breather, I need to feel guilty about it, or work extra hard when I get back to “make up for it”. For some reason, (I know why, but that’s an entire article all in itself regarding inherited traumas which I will write about very soon!) But at the same time I have the knowing sense that it’s not even a matter of me “deserving” a break, it’s a matter of asking myself, “Does this bring me joy or not?” If not, DON’T DO IT! And I’m not talking about if you’re finding yourself flaking out on every opportunity afforded to you, or refusing to take risks that are ultimately holding you back from making progress in areas of your life.
What I’m referring to are the things we ALL do that we (usually secretly) hate to do! The things we do that are only motivated out of guilt, fear, or other people’s expectations of who they think we are and who they think we should be. I’ve come to learn when we live to meet the expectations of others, you die a very slow and painful death. Action with the energy of resentment behind it is toxic even if it has a fake smile plastered on it and especially if it doesn’t and no one else seems to mind you keep doing it anyway.
Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase that we teach others how to treat us through how we treat ourselves. I feel while there is so much truth in this as energy truly is reflective and self-fulfilling whether you have any conscious awareness of it or not, but I think that it goes beyond that. You see, no matter if we are treating ourselves poorly and allowing others to cross personal boundaries, or whether we are aware of our needs and take great care to make sure we are meeting them, people are always going to BE who they are.
Some of us are better than others at being true or “real” with others. And I honestly don’t believe that most of us do this intentionally. I think there is a huge epidemic going on in the last few generations and it’s called WE HAVE FORGOTTEN WHO WE ARE.
And who we are, while divinely grand and cosmic, is the simplest most pure form of Spirit and no one (not even ourselves) can take that away from us; no matter how mean we want to be, no matter how hard we want to be on ourselves in the name of “encouragement”. When it comes down to it, we were all put here for a grand purpose that upon incarnation is usually lost to us. But as we age, the memories begin to flood in through our creativity, inspirations, and karma.